With us wrapping up two months into the New Year, I thought it fitting to write this post that has been on my heart; and share my personal experience with something so many of us have such a hard time doing. That is saying... GOODBYE!
Why do I find this post to be fitting? Because, it's our fear of leaving our past and present situations/relationships that often keep us in a place far beyond the time we are supposed to be there! It's also our thoughts that keep us emotionally tied to past/current situations that we need to move away from. So, let's dive right in...
Have you been in a situation or relationship (platonic or romantic) with someone where you knew your time was up? Where you knew that you must move on but something held you back?... I have!
I was at a place in my life where I developed strong friendships but knew after some time that the friendships that were once fun-filled and joyful, were now detrimental to my personal growth and my destiny. I was so deeply connected to these friendships that I continued to remain in the midst of what quickly became a negative and non-productive environmnent for me. I was soon met with a choice: 1) I relinquish my friendships without knowing what's next, without having any friends, without having anymore fun and having a social life (so I thought), or 2) I maintain my friendships because it's what I know; and what I know is always easier to deal with rather than walking into the unknown.
Well, I chose #2 because it was easy. The reality of my choice however, is that I chose to cope with a miserable situation rather than to try God at His word; to believe that He had me covered regardless of what things seemed like, seemed like they'd be, or even how I felt.
That being said, let's quickly take a glimpse at a story from the bible that many of you are probably familiar with...
We hear so much about Lot's wife, but today I want us to briefly examine Lot and the events that surrounded his escape from Sodom.
God had already shown His grace toward Lot by allowing him the opportunity to escape from destruction in Sodom. Even when Lot lingered, after God [through the angels] made it clear to him that he must move swiftly, God was merciful in that the angels took hold of his hands, his wife's hand and the hands of his two daughters and set them outside the city. God loved Lot so much that He would extend Himself in creating a situation that would physically remove Lot from a harmful situation, when Lot was unwilling to move on his own, as commanded. He lingered, as many of us do!
Well, God did the same for me! Though I didn't have angels come down from heaven and physically move me out of a situation, I had a God who loved me so much that He would cause a shift in my friendships; a shift that would cause those I was once close with to turn on me. Those whom I once called friends started talking about me, stopped inviting me to events and stopped talking to me. It was now painful to stay connected to these friends. As a result, I was literally forced away from the situation I was in. I was hurt and confused at the time, but when I look back, I am SO thankful! Had I stayed connected to seasonal friendships, who knows where I'd be and what I'd be doing this day. Don't get me wrong, the problem wasn't with the people, the people were fine until God told me to MOVE!! When I was disobedient and reluctant to move out of fear, God changed the hearts of my friends to make me move. All that just for me... Oh how He loves us!
The great blessing in "goodbye"" for me was a personal refreshing -- something that only God could do for me. I gained great friends, though the devil tried to make me think that I'd be alone. I'll have you to know that it's through the new friendships that I also met my husband :) I stepped out on faith and started a business. I am wiser, I am stronger, I am living boldly for Christ; and yes, the devil is mad!
Don't you know that we are are called to live victorious, purpose-filled lives, and not lives where we go day-by-day coping with situations because we are fearful to move or too comfortable where we are? That's not living, that's bondage! God has so much in store for you and for me! If we would just move when our season is up we could have it! Saying goodbye is a part of life :)
Let's press on together, moving toward the unknown in FAITH, and TRUSTING that God is with us every step of the way. You don't have to wait until the New Year, your birthday or an anniversary to move forward. You can start today, at this vey moment.
So, as we close, I want you to do me a favor. If you are in a situation where you know your season is up, whether it's a relationship (for my singles), friendships, thoughts that you are holding on to, wherever you are, whatever it is, just hold up your hand and wave goodbye! If you believe your season at your job is up, prayerfully seek another job or start your own business BEFORE eliminating your current source of income. With every life-changing decision you make, make it prayerfully. Once you hear from God, MOVE!
Let's pray. Lord, I thank You, for allowing me to experience this season in my life, to make connections, to grow... to help. Please help me discern when You are calling me to move from season to season. More so, please help me to be obedient to move when You say move. Please forgive my disobedience in operating by my desires instead of by Your Word. Even if I don't know what's next, I can trust You because Your living Word says that You know the plans that You have for me; plans to prosper me and not to harm me; plans to give me hope and a future. That I will trust in. Clear confusion and give me the same mind that is in Christ Jesus; that I may think clearly and that my mind will be fixed on You. Remove any fear and doubt and replace it with Your confidence. I am ready to submit my will to You. Amen.
Stay tuned to review my blog about signs that it's time to say goodbye.